IMAGES AND STEREOTYPES!!!!
Author: Dimitri
We're all a mix of many different things. Girls, and people in general, will see different parts of who we are.
So when I get the question "Can I get success even though I'm ___________?" ... I shake my head. Insert any of "short", "tall", "fat", "skinny", "old", "young"... also insert every race - yes, I've seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed...
This is a common problem. You probably don't like every single thing about yourself. Who does? Hopefully you're trying to work past the things you don't like and become the best person you can be.
But what if you're short? What can be done about that?
Well your height isn't going to change. But I don't think that's really what you care about.
No, what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet.
Regardless of your height, you can bed plenty of beautiful women, and have very hot girlfriends.
Something Very Important:
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
Read that again.
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
If you're short, you don't want people to think "Wow, he's a short guy" when they meet you. You don't want to give off a 'short vibe'.
Instead, you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image.
When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson, does she think, "He's old"?
No way!
She thinks he's a rockstar, and seems fun and cool and successful. Look at Hugh Hefner, even.
Hugh is a bazillion years old, but his image is one of a certified, legitimate, full-on playboy. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with.
What does this mean to you?
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
A common question I get is, "I'm _________ race, can I get _________ race of woman?"
Here's one I see a lot on here - Asian guys wondering if they can get white women. The question is - Is your image "Asian"?
My image is not "white". If the first thing a woman thought when she saw me was "This guy is white", then I'd be in trouble. I'd be super-boring.
Think typical "suburban guy". I don't have a suburban guy image.
The thing is, Caucasian is the majority in America. If you're Caucasian in America, any image is stronger than the fact you're white.
Whereas if you're another race, it might be a stronger image.
This works for and against guys whose races are stereotypical of being alpha and powerful, like latino and black men.
But what if you're Asian? Or Indian? The stereotypes of those two races in America are pretty much not positive (which sucks, and bugs me to death - but it IS the way it is).
Here's what you need:
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them. Y'know, Chinese mafia. Ripped, dragon-tattooed guys, shaved heads, hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a "Don't mess with me" look.
When any woman looked at one of these guys, she didn't think, "He's Asian." She thought "He's powerful" or "He's a gangster" or "He's buff."
As an example, let's compare two Chinese guys I knew. One went to that gym. He was about 5'5, but he was *jacked*. Muscles upon muscles.
They called him "the bull". No joke. I called him "el toro" very, very respectfully. This guy had women all over him - black, white, latin, and of course Asian as well.
On the other hand, I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over.
He had no image, so women would lump him into the category of "asexual Asian guy" - They'd buy into the stereotype that he's asexual, because -
The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him.
Everybody's got something that's unappealing to some group of women. You're either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or... something.
I got to make a brief pass through France recently. You can bet your last nickel that I didn't want people to think "American" right off the bat. I wanted women to think "Wow, what a stylish powerful guy."
When women would ask where I was from, I'd tell them to guess. I was getting a lot of "Amsterdam", "Italy", and "Russia". That means I was doing something right - I didn't put off the negative vibe associated with Americans in France.
I'm still American. But it wasn't what I put forward.
I've been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. Hell, I've been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn't speak fluent Mandrin, Spanish, or Creole. But I'd keep a warm smile and a good vibe, and yeah, everyone knew I was white... but I wasn't "the white guy".
Think on that. If you're wondering, "Am I too short?" ... then think of if you put off a short vibe. Tom Cruise is pretty short. I've had students at short as 5'2:
In fact, the shortest student I've ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me. Thing was, he didn't identify with being a 'short guy'. He didn't have a 'short vibe'. No, he acted like a high-rollin' playboy type, and the women bought right into that.
Cultivate an image for yourself. If you have a weak image, then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes.
If you have a solid image, your age, race, height, and all those other things you have no control over - They fade to black.
And you get the girls you want.
Grandmaster Dimitri, Swashbuckling Pick-Up Artist
We're all a mix of many different things. Girls, and people in general, will see different parts of who we are.
So when I get the question "Can I get success even though I'm ___________?" ... I shake my head. Insert any of "short", "tall", "fat", "skinny", "old", "young"... also insert every race - yes, I've seen guys of all races get nervous and wonder if they can succeed...
This is a common problem. You probably don't like every single thing about yourself. Who does? Hopefully you're trying to work past the things you don't like and become the best person you can be.
But what if you're short? What can be done about that?
Well your height isn't going to change. But I don't think that's really what you care about.
No, what you care about is bedding beautiful women and getting plenty of respect out of everyone you meet.
Regardless of your height, you can bed plenty of beautiful women, and have very hot girlfriends.
Something Very Important:
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
Read that again.
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
If you're short, you don't want people to think "Wow, he's a short guy" when they meet you. You don't want to give off a 'short vibe'.
Instead, you want to have some sort of powerful and positive image.
When a 20-year old woman sees Mel Gibson, does she think, "He's old"?
No way!
She thinks he's a rockstar, and seems fun and cool and successful. Look at Hugh Hefner, even.
Hugh is a bazillion years old, but his image is one of a certified, legitimate, full-on playboy. And successful businessman and very cool and fun guy to socialize with.
What does this mean to you?
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
A common question I get is, "I'm _________ race, can I get _________ race of woman?"
Here's one I see a lot on here - Asian guys wondering if they can get white women. The question is - Is your image "Asian"?
My image is not "white". If the first thing a woman thought when she saw me was "This guy is white", then I'd be in trouble. I'd be super-boring.
Think typical "suburban guy". I don't have a suburban guy image.
The thing is, Caucasian is the majority in America. If you're Caucasian in America, any image is stronger than the fact you're white.
Whereas if you're another race, it might be a stronger image.
This works for and against guys whose races are stereotypical of being alpha and powerful, like latino and black men.
But what if you're Asian? Or Indian? The stereotypes of those two races in America are pretty much not positive (which sucks, and bugs me to death - but it IS the way it is).
Here's what you need:
The image you put forward has to be stronger than any negative stereotypes about you.
I used to work out at a gym that had guys that looked to be Triads in them. Y'know, Chinese mafia. Ripped, dragon-tattooed guys, shaved heads, hot girlfriends and luxury cars and nice clothes and a "Don't mess with me" look.
When any woman looked at one of these guys, she didn't think, "He's Asian." She thought "He's powerful" or "He's a gangster" or "He's buff."
As an example, let's compare two Chinese guys I knew. One went to that gym. He was about 5'5, but he was *jacked*. Muscles upon muscles.
They called him "the bull". No joke. I called him "el toro" very, very respectfully. This guy had women all over him - black, white, latin, and of course Asian as well.
On the other hand, I knew a Chinese computer-programmer. He had thick glasses and wore frumpled clothing and slouched over.
He had no image, so women would lump him into the category of "asexual Asian guy" - They'd buy into the stereotype that he's asexual, because -
The image he put forward was not stronger than the negative stereotypes around him.
Everybody's got something that's unappealing to some group of women. You're either young or old or too skinny or too fat or too short or too tall or... something.
I got to make a brief pass through France recently. You can bet your last nickel that I didn't want people to think "American" right off the bat. I wanted women to think "Wow, what a stylish powerful guy."
When women would ask where I was from, I'd tell them to guess. I was getting a lot of "Amsterdam", "Italy", and "Russia". That means I was doing something right - I didn't put off the negative vibe associated with Americans in France.
I'm still American. But it wasn't what I put forward.
I've been to parties where I was the only white person in the room. Hell, I've been to parties where I was the only person in the room that didn't speak fluent Mandrin, Spanish, or Creole. But I'd keep a warm smile and a good vibe, and yeah, everyone knew I was white... but I wasn't "the white guy".
Think on that. If you're wondering, "Am I too short?" ... then think of if you put off a short vibe. Tom Cruise is pretty short. I've had students at short as 5'2:
In fact, the shortest student I've ever had slept with 3 women within 2 months of meeting with me. Thing was, he didn't identify with being a 'short guy'. He didn't have a 'short vibe'. No, he acted like a high-rollin' playboy type, and the women bought right into that.
Cultivate an image for yourself. If you have a weak image, then people will pick something arbitrary about you and assume the stereotypes.
If you have a solid image, your age, race, height, and all those other things you have no control over - They fade to black.
And you get the girls you want.
Grandmaster Dimitri, Swashbuckling Pick-Up Artist
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